I used to think being proactive about mental health meant “getting back out there” and “getting on with life”. Then I realized those ideas weren’t mine and they didn’t necessarily work for me.
This past winter I went through one of the worst depressions I have experienced, my bed haven was one of my favorite places, and helped me get through it.
At first I felt guilty for being “lazy” , but eventually I just let myself do what I needed to do to get through the hard emotional times. Sometimes that meant staying in bed. I didn’t necessarily sleep while in bed, but I just stayed in bed listening to music, watching movies, or staring out the window etc.
It is a popular belief that when you are depressed you shouldn’t isolate yourself at home and instead you should force yourself to get back out in the world and see friends etc. Maybe that is true for some people, but for others, it might be better to let yourself have some time to curl up in bed and feel sad. It’s like hibernating or something.
It’s not ideal forever, but it can help as a temporary way to deal with depression.
The bottom line is, do what you need to do. Everyone is different and has a different way of coping. Not everyone can just force themselves into being “okay” again by going out and pretending. I think it is perfectly fine and even beneficial to let yourself stay in bed, or hide away from the world for a while.