I recently learned about OCPD from a psychiatrist. I was curious for a while if I had OCD, but I wrote it off because I didn’t struggle with things like repetition and rituals. Still, the obsessive and compulsive urges that I had felt really debilitating and stifling.
I remember when I was a kid, I would get fixated on an unnecessary detail and not end up completing a task. Example: if I had a writing assignment to do, I would keep wanting to rewrite the paragraphs to make them look perfect, instead of worrying about what the text said. It was pretty problematic during time sensitive tests and exams haha. It’s not that BIG of a problem, but it was just one little thing I remembered that was present even when I was younger.
Now, I know I struggle on a regular basis due to my obsession with perfectionism, and when I brought that up to the psychiatrist, she informed me about OCPD. It was like a light bulb went off! I was like “oh wow yes that is %100 what I experience.” It’s real!
I haven’t delved too much into dealing with it yet, because there are bigger fish to fry at the moment in terms of my mental health. But, it’s helped me in small ways to learn that it is a real thing. At least I now notice when I am being somewhat possessed by this strange desire to reorganize and perfect something, even though there is no value to it. It feels really hard to stop myself from giving into the urges, so that’s what I would like to get better at when I can. For now though, just having awareness and understanding is helpful.
I found this little blurb that sums up the different between OCPD and OCD quite well:
"Although they may be similar, Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCPD) is a different condition from the more commonly known Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). OCD is often characterized by a repetition or adherence to rituals. OCPD is characterized more by an unhealthy adherence to perfectionism."
A compliment can go a long way. Sometimes it’s given right when someone needs it most.
Have you ever received a compliment on a day where you were feeling extra insecure or down on yourself? Or, like this comic depicts, you receive a compliment on something you thought the opposite of? It can really help pick you up!
It also seems that we can see positive things about other people, that they may not see about themselves, so it’s nice to point it out :)
The catch is, it can be scary sometimes to get the courage to give a compliment in the first place! :p
WIth a tendency toward self doubt and over analyzing, something like giving a little compliment can quickly spiral into a giant obstacle for me. It might sound ridiculous, but it’s true. I’ve definitely had moments where I wanted to give a compliment to someone but I was quickly discouraged by my own over thinking. The main things that get in the way are:
Fear of rejection or being misunderstood, and my own nervousness and social anxiety.
I am trying to work through those obstacles though, because I see the value of compliments, and I always feel so grateful when someone gives me a genuine compliment.
Keep in mind, you are giving the compliment not to receive a certain response. So, if someone doesn’t seem responsive, don’t let it discourage you. It might hit them later and make them feel good about themselves.
The same way a negative comment can get stuck in your head all day, a positive comment can to :)